Are You Being Strung Along By Someone You’re Dating? When mixed signals keep you waiting.

When dating someone new, things can be unclear in the early stages. You’re not sure where you stand with them or whether they are interested in a committed partnership. If they appear hot and cold or give you a push-pull attitude, it can become emotionally damaging when this continues for an extended period.

You will begin to feel stuck in a cycle of mixed messages, unanswered questions and empty promises. Some days, they may be very engaged with you and other days, they basically go silent and disappear. Then all of a sudden, they pop back into your life as if nothing had happened.

The feeling of being strung along is very hurtful. You end up living on hope rather than the certainty of the relationship progression. You keep hoping that things will change, and they just need some time to adjust. You start to make excuses for their convoluted behaviour.

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If their words and actions do not align, they are not invested in having a partnership.

Red flags to look out for:

• The first few dates were really great, but things have suddenly slowed down. They are doing just enough to keep you interested without taking the steps to have a deep emotional connection.
• They say the right things to keep you holding on, but their actions don’t match up.
• There isn’t any consistency to when you see them. It is always on their terms and what works for them.
• There is more texting than face-to-face connection with them.
• 2 weeks may go by before you hear from them, and then they want to see you right away. There is very little planning ahead, and limited romantic courtship.
• You are starting to feel like a booty call.
• If you start to question them, they either get very defensive or love bomb you to bring you back in.

Being honest with yourself is important in the early stages of dating.

If you are waiting on hold for someone to choose you, you are not being true to yourself. Maintaining your self-respect requires boundaries. People can talk the talk, but there needs to be clear intentions when you’re starting a new partnership. If you have to question whether someone is interested in you, then they are not.

Many people fall into a texting pattern rather than meeting in person after the first few dates. This is very frustrating, especially if those dates went really well! Be aware of this type of person who lures you in but doesn’t follow through with consistency. No one is too busy to plan a future date if they are invested in spending time with you. This is a huge red flag not to be ignored.

What does it mean to be strung along with someone you are dating?

This genuinely occurs when someone keeps you emotionally invested without offering a genuine commitment. They make promises about the future, but rarely follow through. There is very little discussion about wanting a relationship, and their level of Interest continually fluctuates. They only reach out when it’s convenient to them. You feel like you are constantly waiting for them to decide where the relationship is going.

This uncertainty of what is transpiring between you is creating emotional stress. You’re always in the maybe zone, which is emotionally exhausting. You are investing time in this person while waiting for their decision. You’re holding out for potential with someone rather than acknowledging the reality of what’s going on. This holds you back and delays your chances of finding happiness elsewhere.

It also affects your self-worth, and you start to question yourself. “Why am I not enough for this person? Why are they taking a push-pull attitude toward me?” Chasing a committed relationship with them becomes a trap. It can cause you to become emotionally invested before the partnership has a solid foundation.

Is this going anywhere? Questions to ask yourself.

1. How long has this been going on?
2. Do you understand that you are not receiving the relationship that you truly want with this person?
3. Have they taken any concrete actions toward establishing a relationship with you?
4. Are you holding on to the potential of having a relationship?
5. Would you be happy continuing in this same manner for the next year?

What should you do next?

Stop waiting and start moving forward. Don’t be afraid to ask the important questions! It is essential to have clarity when you’re dating someone new. You deserve to know what their intentions are from the beginning. Don’t hand them all the control by allowing them to stay in the driver’s seat. You need to have a voice about what is or isn’t transpiring between you as a couple.

There is a high emotional price to pay when you’re living in limbo. If they are not ready for a committed relationship, it is time to walk away. Waiting around for someone to decide if they want a partnership comes at the expense of your self-esteem and future happiness. Don’t put your life on hold for someone who keeps you questioning where you stand.

When something is evolving in the right direction, there aren’t many unanswered questions; there is a smooth progression, reciprocated with love and respect. You are both aligned in wanting the same things.

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