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Today’s modern woman has taken on more responsibility than ever before. She is now learning how to balance a career, motherhood, household upkeep, and maintain a loving relationship! How is it possible to evenly divide the attention to each one of these daily occurrences?

Being a Mom is not just all about the kids; You count too.

Your happiness is priority #1 to keeping everything flowing at home!

Take time to exercise and follow a healthy eating plan. Looking and feeling good will keep your self-worth intact. Many women neglect to schedule time for their health. They end up feeling unattractive from neglecting their bodies and emotional well-being.

If you can’t get to the gym, buy an inexpensive second-hand stationary bike. Purchase some weights that you can use at home. YouTube also has so many videos that can help you keep a fitness regime without any membership fees.

Take turns with your partner to have alone time with the kids. This frees you both up every week to have time for yourself. There will be plenty of family time. However, as parents, you need to regroup once in a while without all the obligations of home life.

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Nurture your friendships.

Some women put their friendships on the back burner when they become a mom. There just isn’t enough time in the day to do it all. This is important, though. Plan something every few weeks to get together with your close friends. Even if it means getting 10 women together at once due to time restrictions, it is worth it. You need some quality time with adults to keep your life balanced.

Don’t feel guilty if you have to work to provide a home for your children.

Your kids don’t need to see you every moment. It builds character for children to be around others and not always just family. It also teaches them confidence and people skills for later in life. Children learn how to open up more and communicate better when they are not continually coddled. They also gain some independence when the parents aren’t always around.

Treat yourself to something you enjoy at least once a month, and budget accordingly.

Have a pedicure. Go to a movie. Go shopping at consignment stores. Take a book and sit outside a coffee shop for some alone time. Literally, get out and smell the flowers! You deserve it and you will feel revitalized when you take time for yourself. Mom needs to nurture herself to be happy and have some alone time without any responsibilities.

Don’t allow your days to become too routine or mundane.

Keep your life diverse by doing interesting things that are a little out of your comfort zone. Your children are learning new things every day, and so should you. Take an online course, start up a blog, or try a new sport. When you have other passions in life, it gives you a purpose and something to look forward to. When mom is happy, the kids are happy!

How to Make Child Rearing A Little Easier:

1. Give your children chores; do not take everything on yourself. Even at a very young age, kids like to feel needed by helping mom. Don’t be a martyr by taking it all on and then complaining you have no time. You’re not doing yourself any favours by allowing the kids to be too needy. You don’t need to cater to their every demand. Show them how to be responsible and teach them how to fend for themselves.
2. When you are feeling overwhelmed, ask for help from family, friends or mothers’ groups. (This is especially important for single mothers.)
3. Babysitting doesn’t have to be expensive. Find someone who has children with whom you can exchange daycare. This will also offer play dates for your children and alone time with your spouse or partner. Use this opportunity to go out on a date or attend a social event together as a couple.
4. Hire a high school student to assist with your child’s homework occasionally. The help will be well worth the hourly wage every few weeks.
5. Ask your partner for assistance; tell them how helpful it is for you. This is healthier for your relationship than constantly telling them what they “don’t do to help you.”
6. Allow your children “one” sport/activity per season. Running yourself ragged trying to be everywhere does not give you quality time with them. It can be extremely hard on them, too.
7. Give your children 2 options with clothing choices, weekend activities, homework compromises, TV or gaming times etc. They like to think that they are making the decision once in a while. (Even though the two choices are ultimately decided by what works for you, too.)
8. Do not allow your children to ever talk back, swear at you, hit you, or talk down to you. They learn how to manipulate their parents at a very early age. This is a difficult behaviour to reverse. Discipline is not something to ignore; kids need boundaries and guidance!

Making Time for Love and Your Relationship

Do not put your spouse last; always have a date night planned once a week. Keep a calendar visible to the whole family. This ensures everyone is on the same page with the weekly schedule. If you have to travel for work, try to leave enough space between days gone and days home. This allows you to reconnect with your partner and children. (Two days feels like an eternity to them!)

Always make an effort to look good for yourself and for your partner. Becoming complacent with your appearance can be a detriment to your marriage down the road. It doesn’t take more than 15 minutes to freshen up your sexiness. Don’t get lazy when it comes to spicing things up for your other half. You fell in love for a reason, don’t forget why.

Never put your partner last on the priority list. Remind yourself daily of how special they are. You would not be blessed with your beautiful family if the two of you hadn’t met and fallen in love.

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Sex, intimacy and romance are a very important part of a relationship. This keeps the love alive for years to come. Don’t disregard this with excuses that you are too tired or too busy all the time.  It doesn’t have to be a 2-hour ordeal every time you end up in the bedroom.

Acknowledging your partner and showing them you’re attracted to them will help you get through those really tough times. Never lose sight of how important it is to keep the fires burning between the two of you.

The biggest regret couples have as their children grow up is forgetting how to love each other.

 Sybersue xo

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