Quite often men seem to move on much quicker from a relationship breakup than many women do. This allows them to bring happiness back into their lives at a faster rate. The main reason for this is that men mentally prepare themselves when they decide their partnership is over. They often check out long before they actually end the relationship.

This can blindside some women, leaving them wondering what the Hell happened. This is also the reason many women take so much longer to get past the hurt. The sadness of a breakup lingers because they didn’t see it coming.

If you find that you often end up in heartbreaking scenarios, pay close attention to any red flags. Notice any warning signs you see or feel early on. It is so important to listen closely to your instincts when you are first dating someone. This can save you from prolonging relationships that aren’t right for you. Your gut instincts are your best friend!

There are always some signs that your partner is moving away from the relationship.

Some men show no signs of discontentment within their relationship. However, there are often indications that some things have changed. Pay very close attention to any negativity or changes in attitude that occur within your partnership. Never take things for granted and always nurture the love between you on a daily basis. It is crucial to make your partner a priority.

You feel that you have done everything you can to preserve the connection with your partner. Despite your efforts, you might have to accept that there isn’t a salvageable future. Couples can grow apart for many reasons. These reasons aren’t always obvious or in our control. This makes some breakups even more difficult. When you don’t notice the problems occurring in your relationship, finding out your partner is moving on will be devastating.

Quite often, couples grow apart over the years due to boredom or complacency.

You don’t always grow in the same direction as a couple. This happens when you both forget how to communicate and have fun together. You slowly start to pull away from one another romantically, which eventually makes you feel very disconnected. It is not uncommon for some couples to live separate lives under the same roof.

Ending a long-term partnership is very difficult. This is because you may still love them and have grown accustomed to them being in your life. Even if the intimacy has diminished, it can still be hard to leave. Walking away from someone you have shared your life with is disheartening and overwhelming. This is a big reason some couples stay together for many years in an unhappy relationship.

Once you look back on your breakup with fresh clarity, you will understand why things ended. This is the time to reflect and understand why your relationship has run its course. You are meant to be on a different path and in a happier place.

When things are right between a couple, you continue to compromise and turn challenges into progress. You are both on the same page and growing in the same direction. When the dynamics dramatically shift, a partnership is no longer reciprocal. At that point, it is time to be honest with yourself. Understand that you deserve to be with the right person in your life. You do not have to stay in an unhealthy situation.

How do you go about that? How do you start your life over after being in a committed relationship?

1. It is important to take time to grieve. You loved your partner at one time, and they were in your life for a reason. It isn’t easy to end a committed love connection, and nor should it be. It is OK to cry, be angry, and to feel regret/guilt and other emotions. Feel everything and then let it go. It will not serve you to hold onto negative thoughts that keep you stuck.
2. Take some alone time to think about the part you played in your relationship. What lessons did you learn, and what will you do differently in your life moving ahead?
3. Get out of the house. Make daily appointments that you have to attend.
4. Remove photos or anything from your home that reminds you of your Ex. The less you see them, the less pain you will feel getting over the initial breakup.
5. Take them off all of your social media. This is an important step! You don’t need to see how much fun they are having in their new life! This just prolongs the heartbreak.
6. Spending time with friends will help you through the tough few months. Ask them not to talk about your ex if they are still in contact with him.
7. Implementing a fitness routine also helps with sadness and loneliness. I always called this cheap therapy when dealing with my own divorce. It still helps boost my confidence and self-esteem when dealing with any issues I have today. It is so true that when you look good, you feel good.
8. If you have the opportunity to speak with your Ex, it can give clarity to unanswered questions you still have.

Once the hurt slowly starts to subside, you will begin to see that there is a bright future for you. This is a chance to start fresh with who you have now become over the past few years. Be excited about the lessons you have learned along the way. We all change, and we are not always meant to be with one partner our entire life. Be optimistic that there are wonderful new beginnings coming onto your path and embrace them.

Get off the couch, dust off your pride, and get out there to be the best NEW you ever. There is a reason your relationship ended. It is usually a much-needed wake-up call that leads you to a happier place. Don’t spend too much time dwelling on your EX. Open up your eyes with optimism to see what the Universe has in store for your future.

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