Welcome to Dear Sybersue! Why is love taking a back seat in the world today?

I find it sad that many people are not very happy and there are a lot of unfair judgments being made about one another. All you have to do is go on any popular celebrity social media account, and it’s bombarded with critical comments from strangers! Why does this type of anger seem to overrule love so often? Doesn’t it make much more sense to treat someone the way that you would want to be treated?

Just recently on the TV show, The Bachelor, there was a big discussion on how much bullying and racial comments were written to some of the contestants. The sadness and pain that they felt from people repeatedly writing nasty comments, was crushing to their self-esteem and confidence. How devastating would it be to wake up every morning to hundreds of malicious remarks?

Regardless of the difficulty that life brings to your world, embracing love over hate is always the better choice. It’s not easy to always stay positive, but things turn out much better when you have an optimistic mindset. It also attracts people with the same energy toward you. Furthermore, it makes so much more sense to put a smile on your face and interact with happy people than to be around negativity. You will always have a few bad days, but allowing them to rule your life, is not benefiting you in any way. It’s keeping you stuck.

Discovering Unconditional Love: Children, Pets, and Relationships

Our pets and our children love us through all our faults, and we are their main priority day in and day out. They get up to greet us when we come home and miss us when we’re away, even if it’s just for 10 minutes. Both our children and our pets are not afraid to show us unconditional love, and they give us this every single day. There is no fear of showing vulnerability, and there are no insecurities that often come with adult relationships. Their loyalty is everything!

Parents have an unconditional reciprocated love with their kids but often forget to practice that in their romantic partnerships. They will do anything for their children, and there is a natural protection to always want the best for them. There are no limitations! Children also like to see their parents happy, especially in their younger years. The great thing about this type of love is that there’s no game-playing, underlying agendas, or heartbreak. It is love in its purest form!

Photo by MINH VO

It’s tough to be angry or moody when you have a child or a pet sitting in your lap, and we tend to have so much more patience with them than we do with the adults in our lives. Impatience and complacency, are two of the big reasons why our partnerships become unbalanced and unhealthy over time.

We can learn some bad habits as we forge our way through life, and that makes things more difficult than they need to be when it comes to love and relationships. Paying attention to how you feel when you’re around children or animals, is a good reminder of how it should also be in a healthy adult relationship.

10 ways to build and nurture unconditional love in your partnership.

Unconditional love is important with your partner because it is the key to relationship happiness and to obtaining longevity and fulfillment as a couple.

1. You understand the importance of prioritizing and nurturing the love within your partnership. You give energy to it every day.
2. There aren’t unrealistic expectations. You have mutual patience for each other, especially during those tough times. You take the time to listen, offer suggestions, and always have each other’s back.
3. You support and respect your partner in a reciprocated manner. There is no judgment.
4. As a couple, you appreciate that your love is very special, and there’s no room for complacency to tear down the bond that you share.
5. Open communication in your relationship is always the number one priority.
6. You both greet each other affectionately when you leave the house and when you come home. There are daily check-ins with one another, and you’re never too busy to talk with your partner.
7. There is a mutual understanding that romance and intimacy between you is of great importance, to help sustain a healthy love connection. You surprise each other with romantic gestures, date nights, and thoughtful gifts.
8. You can resolve any conflict quickly and both own your part in what transpired. You can sit down and share your thoughts equally and constructively. You respect each other’s point of view and learn from some of these tougher lessons that arise in your partnership.
9. Take some time away from the responsibility of your home, your job, and your children to have quality couple time. Make each other the sole priority for 2–3 hours a few times a week, everything else can wait. Nurturing your love is the most important thing you can do to keep your home and family content throughout the years.
10. Tell your partner you love them every day, compliment them, hug them, and hold hands with them on the couch, when you’re out for a walk, or sitting across from them at the dinner table. Touch is very important to keep the love alive between you as a couple.

Be aware of who you choose to allow in your life.

You are the one in control of who you attract toward you and who you let in. You can have an unconditional love relationship when you understand what that consists of. It is very important, that you never feel anxious or fearful in any partnership. There should be a reciprocated physical and mental connection when you are with the right person. Sexual chemistry is always a big priority, but many people overlook the other attributes that make up a great relationship. Sex alone isn’t enough to keep a partnership strong. There has to be a communicative friendship and a deep respect for each other. You also have to have fun together.

It shouldn’t be easy to find your special person, but it shouldn’t be difficult to maintain the love when you do commit to someone. Spending time in unconditional love settings will give you the tools on how to bring this forward into your romantic connections. Surround yourself with positive people to keep the negativity out of your life. The more you do this, the more pleasant things will be for you.

You may not realize that even difficult friendships play a part in how you interact in your romantic relationship. It can cause insecurities and self-doubt that take a toll on your self-esteem. When you give your energy to the right people, your life just seems to flow smoothly. The less negativity you allow, the more optimistic you will feel. It’s okay to walk away from situations that don’t serve you anymore, never feel obligated to stay in an unhealthy environment. Whenever in doubt, always choose love.

Photo Credit Bruce Barton (My grand-dog Murphy and Me)

Thank you, Sybersue xo <3

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