Irreconcilable differences is a term used as the cause of a marriage or relationship breakdown.

Meaning, certain relationship problems can’t be brought into agreement or harmony through compromise or therapy. The couple is incapable of resolving their differences to continue having a future together.

One of the biggest issues that causes the end of a partnership is a lack of communication skills. This opens up many ongoing problems that worsen over the years. These include continual differences of opinion, loss of compatibility/trust, lack of intimacy, financial concerns, and challenging family dynamics.

When harmony and balance are lacking in your partnership, it tarnishes the bond you once shared. It starts to tear down the foundation of your love as you continue to grow in different directions.

You can avoid having irreconcilable differences in your relationship if you are both willing to do the work.

1. Honest communication is number one!

If you always stay connected as a couple, you will continually understand what the other is thinking and feeling. Don’t let things go on if something is bothering you. Express your emotions regularly before things escalate to a higher level.

Listen closely to what each other is saying. Hearing your partner’s concerns should not make you defensive. You should both want to get to the bottom of any issues that arise. Be cognizant of how you are delivering the message. Be gentle and diplomatic. A pointed finger at your partner will not give you positive results. You want them to open up, not shut down, because they feel chastised each time.

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2. Affection, romance and intimacy should play an important role in your partnership!

As a couple, nurturing your love should always be prioritized. Sadly, this is one of the reasons some relationships dissolve over time. People lose sight of staying closely connected and make other things more important. Intimacy is the glue of a healthy and loving partnership. Please do not take this for granted.

Being affectionate helps take away some of the everyday stress we all go through in our lives. It’s therapeutic and healing when you take time to hug and kiss each other regularly. A happy sex life will get you through many hurdles. Some things just don’t matter as much when you share a deep, intimate love with your partner.

3. Understand the importance of compromise.

Small things become big things if you don’t find a middle ground with your partner. There will be times when you both have to give a little more than you might want to. This is how life goes; we don’t always get what we want all the time.

Be aware of always having to be right or in control. Your partner wants to share their life with you equally. Take turns when it comes to making small decisions within your home or your social life. It gets old when you always have to defend your choices. Choose different date night ideas each week and try new things to enhance your connection. The more fun you have together, the less conflict you will have to deal with.

4. Always respect each other!

You fell in love for a reason; always remember why that was. There will be conflict in a relationship, but dealing with disagreements of any kind should be handled maturely. There shouldn’t be any nastiness toward one another. Patience and forgiveness are very important in a partnership.

You will both have mood variations where you will have contrasting opinions. Please understand this is a natural occurrence in any long-term relationship. If your partner were exactly like you in every way, you would be bored. Honour the differences that you both bring to the table as a couple.

Sometimes their viewpoint can be something compelling that you had never thought about. Be very careful not to shut down your partner’s feelings without making the effort to hear them out. You would appreciate the same in return. We all just want to be heard and have our feelings validated.

5. Having similar values and morals.

This is so important to have in your partnership. It makes up the foundation of a healthy relationship and should be a priority when meeting a potential partner. When you’re on a similar page with your values and morals, you will always be in alignment with one another.

Being opposites within a partnership can make it very difficult to keep the harmony flowing. Relationships are hard enough without adding complicated scenarios that don’t really need to be there. Choosing a complicated love connection should be avoided in a long-term commitment. They don’t usually end well.

6. Be flexible!

Every couple goes through changes within their relationship and on an individual basis as well. We all evolve at different stages in our lives, which is why communication is so important. Be open about what you are going through when dealing with any controversy.

It is so much easier to adapt to life’s curveballs when you do it together as a team. Your partner will feel included and be there to offer comfort whenever needed. When this is a reciprocated practice, you are in a balanced understanding of how a strong relationship thrives. This helps you to evolve at the same pace and stay on the same path.

7. Understand when your partnership needs some outside help.

Don’t leave things for too long before finding a solution to resolve ongoing problems. Quite often, things can be repaired, but some couples choose to forego counselling until it is too late. Any repetitive issues have now turned into irreconcilable differences, as one partner has already checked out of the relationship.

There is no shame in asking for guidance. It shows that you care about finding a solution. You both want to make things work and find the tools to enhance the communication that has been lacking. Fixing problems in your partnership is worth every dollar spent to rebuild the bond between you.

It takes two people to make or break a relationship.

Please understand that it takes ongoing reciprocated effort to nurture the love in a partnership. This is the case for most things worth having in your life. It is important to remember this when you become frustrated with your partner. Is this something that can be resolved with a little compromise? Is it worth fighting about?

Be aware of the part you play within any relationship drama. It isn’t always your partner’s fault, and neither is it always your fault. Know when to apologize. Do not let things fester due to stubbornness or pride. Forgiveness is much easier when you and your partner can learn how to take ownership and say sorry. If you always focus on your relationship, you will stay closely connected throughout the years.

If boredom or complacency is becoming a problem, communicate honestly about how you feel.

Have some suggestions ready about what you can do to better your partnership connection. Complaining about problematic situations is not going to fix the underlying issues. It is important to offer ideas so you can positively improve the future outcome. You both must take part to fix any ongoing problems that arise. Addressing things as a couple before they escalate is the key to staying in healthy alignment.

Don’t let things slide! Complacency is one of the biggest culprits for the demise of so many relationships. Remove this lethargic behaviour from your home. It is well worth the energy put in, to maintain the love you share with your partner. The grass isn’t always greener on the other side, and similar problems will probably arise in another relationship.

Couples who figure out how to repair conflict quickly are there to celebrate those milestone anniversaries. They understand the importance of implementing those 7 points mentioned above. When this is consistently applied to everyday life in a partnership, it just naturally flows to a loving place.

Thank you, Sybersue xo ❤

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