Some people get so easily triggered into arguing with their partner.

It is important to always come from a place of love before deciding to become argumentative with your partner. Ensure there’s a clear and valid reason why you defensively jump into hearing what you think is a negative statement. Are you quick to react before you really listen to what they are saying to you?

If this is becoming a continued practice in your relationship, it is always a great idea to ask your partner to repeat what they heard you say. This exercise can de-escalate most arguments from even starting because it allows you the opportunity to articulate your message once again, which can add more clarity for your partner.

Taking the time to pause and think about what you want to say is a diplomatic approach that will help you refrain from being over-reactive.

Be mindful of using an accusatory tone and repeatedly using the word YOU! Change up the wording to: “I don’t always feel heard and would like to improve our communication as a couple.” That way you’re not pointing fingers at your partner, and you’re trying to find a collective way to repair the conflict that’s taking place. You are taking accountability for your part in any disagreements taking place.

It’s not always easy to step back and take some time to evaluate how you’re going to respond to something controversial between you as a couple. It definitely takes practice.

It can also be very helpful to get your point across when you’re not angry at that particle time. Bringing up an ongoing issue when you’re out for a walk or on a date night, is a much better approach because you’re not riled up in the middle of a heated argument.

It’s important to remember that there are always two sides and two opinions to any problems in a relationship.

Compromise is such a huge part of maintaining longevity as a couple. This includes being more patient, being able to listen and hear what each other is saying, and being open to constructive feedback by not being defensive.

Making communicative changes is an ongoing process and takes time to develop reciprocated skills in a relationship.

Not everyone is openly vulnerable 24/7 and your partner may be much better at relaying their concerns to you. You might be more of an introvert and have trouble getting your point across. If this is the case in your relationship, write down your thoughts and share them with your partner when they can read them in private. This also gives them time to address your concerns without direct feedback from you.

Taking time to register what each other is saying in the partnership, is imperative!

Please don’t just walk out of the room if you don’t feel like discussing something. Shutting your partner out and ignoring the problem will only escalate the tension between the two of you. Any conflict needs to be addressed and discussed for a relationship to grow in a healthy direction.

It is important to find a way to repair things together as a couple. If you require a little time, just tell your partner I need a few moments to collect my thoughts. That way, they know that you are reflecting on the issue at hand and trying to find the right way to communicate this to them without overreacting in an argumentative manner.

Many relationship challenges become a repetitive pattern because a couple does not understand the importance of ongoing teamwork.

Shrugging things off, and dismissing each other’s feelings, does not rectify things. When you take the time to hear your partner’s side and vice versa, it can make a lot more sense on how to deal with the issue going forward. We all want to feel validated, and we all want to feel heard in our relationships.

The impact of words on relationship dynamics can be very powerful. Creating harmony and building stronger bonds should always be a couple’s priority. Please watch the video below for more information on today’s topic.

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