Millions have now binged Nobody Wants This on Netflix (including me), and the show’s wild success highlights what women are craving in their relationships.

If you haven’t seen it yet, Nobody Wants This is a rom-com inspired by Erin Foster’s real-life love story. It follows an outspoken, agnostic woman (Kristen Bell) who unexpectedly falls for an unconventional rabbi (Adam Brody).

Here’s why I think this show has struck such a powerful chord: In a dating landscape filled with ghosting, breadcrumbing, and “keeping our options open,” we’re finally seeing a portrayal of what healthy connection and genuine emotional availability look like.

Think about the relationship narratives we’ve been fed for decades…

1. Mr. Big (Sex and the City) taught us that it’s normal (romantic, even) to chase someone who won’t commit.

2. Christian Grey (Fifty Shades of Grey) made us believe that control and manipulation were signs of passion.

3. The Duke of Hastings (Bridgerton) reinforced that the brooding, emotionally wounded man just needs the “right woman” to change him.

After a while, we start to believe these relationship fantasies as reality

These aren’t just TV characters—they’ve subconsciously shaped how we view love, what we expect from partners, and, sadly, what we’re willing to tolerate. When emotional unavailability is consistently portrayed as sexy and desirable, is it any wonder we sometimes mistake someone’s distance or inconsistency for chemistry?

This is exactly what I discussed with Sara and Erin Foster on their podcast. You can listen here:

1. How to Stop Choosing People Who Are Bad For Us – Listen on Spotify

2. The Breakup Episode – Listen on Spotify

Have you watched the show? Curious to hear your thoughts!

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