Let’s discuss healthy coping mechanisms for your relationship. When I talk about healthy coping mechanisms, I end up talking about relationship traps. What are relationship traps? Relationship traps are when you’re on a separate page from your partner and always ends in a blow-up or a stalemate.

There are four common relationship traps:

The Right-Wrong Trap

The right-wrong trap is when one partner tries to convince the other partner that they are right.

What’s the problem with that? The problem is someone is the winner and someone is the loser. That is not a resolution. Sure you may win, but this leaves the other person feeling like a loser. This is not a healthy long-term resolution.