This type of scenario happens more than you think. Handling Inappropriate Texts from an Engaged Ex-Boyfriend.

Receiving flirtatious texts from your ex can be emotionally damaging, especially if you still have feelings for them. It definitely crosses huge boundaries and absolutely questions their commitment and devotion to their fiancée.

It is important to be very clear from the start that this is not acceptable behaviour. You have spent a lot of time getting over your breakup with your ex. Going back in, thinking you can be friends, is not what he is looking for. The fact that your ex is flirting with you is a clear reflection of his actual intentions!

He is showing a huge lack of respect by assuming you would be OK with him contacting you. His conduct reflects poorly on his integrity. Why would he ever think you would be receptive to his flirty texts when he is about to get married?

There are many reasons your ex is behaving this way, but none of them are justified.

#1 – He wants validation that you still have feelings for him.

If your ex is regretting the end of your relationship, he should have ended things with his fiancée. He certainly shouldn’t be stirring things back up with you and playing both sides of the fence. You would never be able to trust him, even if you are still emotionally attached to him. He is showing poor ethical judgment and has no loyalty toward his new partner.

#2- He’s having doubts about his fiancée

I understand that it can feel good to have attention from your ex. It shouldn’t be at the expense of the woman he is engaged to. If your ex had come back to you without being in a relationship, it would be a different story. Asking for another chance at that time would be considered differently.

#3 – He is playing games, testing boundaries to see how far he can push them.

Some people like to live on the edge and enjoy the conquest of a dangerous temptation. In other words, he wants the best of both worlds. He misses what he had with you. He is opening the door to see how you react to his suggestive texts. He is trying to find out whether he still has influence over you and permission to continue his game.

What are your options when dealing with this?

1. Ignore him and do not respond to his messages. Block his number so you are not tempted to reply.
2. Set clear boundaries. Reply once. Tell him you are not interested in being a part of his deceit toward his fiancée. Be clear and tell him to stop contacting you right away.
3. Remove him from any mutual social media platforms you share. Adjust privacy settings to restrict access to him.
4. If he persists by texting you regularly from different phone numbers, take screenshots of his messages. This is important if it starts to become a harassment issue.
5. Do not let him talk you into getting together. If you still have leftover feelings for him, this will be a big mistake. He will use his charm to lure you back in.

When an engaged ex sends inappropriate texts, it’s not about love. It’s about ego and unfinished control. You must protect your dignity and hold onto your self-respect. Understand that his actions confirm why he is in your past and not your future.

Close the door to any interaction with your ex. Stand firm in your boundaries and make it clear that his behaviour is not acceptable under any circumstances. You deserve an emotionally available man who is honest, loyal and intentional about choosing you. Anything less isn’t worth your time, energy or your heart.  ❤️

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