Many people have become very frustrated with dating. Some have completely given up because they don’t have the patience. Others want everything to work out quickly, so they jump in aggressively. In many of my videos and posts, I have used the dating term “in fast-out fast.” This refers to a popular situation that transpires in the early stages of new relationships. People are not taking the time to get to know someone. They want instant gratification, which doesn’t end well in most cases.

Meeting someone you have a huge chemistry with is such a wonderful feeling. It grabs your attention, leaving you wanting more! Unfortunately, this can cause you to overlook many important aspects of a relationship when you jump in fast with someone! This is often due to an intense sexual chemistry that overpowers your common sense.

The wow-factor connection is wonderful, but how you handle those feelings in the early stages can make all the difference.

How you handle this powerful chemistry will either make or break a future commitment with them. Both sexes often freak themselves out when they jump in too fast. They get so caught up in the initial excitement that things escalate with an addictive intensity. There isn’t a natural progression of how most relationships unfold.

This causes feelings to fade quickly because there is no substance to this new relationship. It is primarily about sexual chemistry, passion and pheremones! Once the initial lust slows down, there needs to be something deeper to hold the relationship together. Without a strong foundation, the connection can quickly begin to unravel.

Ok, so how do you slow things down when there is an intense physical attraction right away?

You finally meet that incredible person who fits the physical criteria on your dating checklist. It is hard not to jump in with enthusiasm. This feels so different from the past drama you have faced in bad dating experiences. This alone is a good reason to slow down and enjoy this newfound excitement! You don’t want to mess it up by jumping into bed at any given chance.

1. Pacing yourself in a new relationship allows you to step back and observe with a realistic approach. When dealing with anything in your life, knowing when not to overindulge is the key. This helps you to achieve a desirable balance and keeps you in a healthy alignment.
2. You don’t have to reveal everything about yourself all at once. Keep a little mystery in the air. When you don’t put everything on the table right away, it gives your partner the chance to gradually discover who you are. This strengthens the bond and creates a lasting emotional connection.
3. Take the lead by not being so readily available. Maintain your individuality,
4. Take time between dates. Don’t play games, but be mindful of prioritizing your own life first. If they are being persistent in seeing you, give them an alternate day that works better the following week. You’re not leaving them on hold; you are finding a way to slow things down so the relationship has a chance.
5. Be mindful of the charmers who try to control your emotions with their assertive confidence and love bombing. Lasting love is built on consistency rather than intensity.
6. Do not ignore any red flags! Even the small ones. If something is nagging at your instincts, listen to it.

Stay grounded when the spark is instant!

Be aware of how powerful early attraction can be. Strong chemistry is exciting, but it can cloud your judgment. It can also make it easy to overlook important signs about compatibility and character.

Some people say all the right things initially, because they are really interested! I have had clients write my advice column asking, “Why did they say all those things and plan so much with me only to run away?” Because they moved so fast due to the attraction, they freaked themselves out! They didn’t let the relationship progress naturally. People become mesmerized by the euphoric feeling of being with this attractive person in front of them! They are put on an unrealistic pedestal that has no other place to go but down.

Beware of anyone who comes in too fast into a new relationship. Don’t allow them to take over your life because it feels so good to be wanted by someone. You don’t know each other yet!  Just because some people fall in love in 6 weeks on reality shows doesn’t mean this is normal. Most of those relationships don’t work out anyway. Life is complicated, and it is not easy to have balance and harmony without making a compromising effort. The keyword is compromise!

It is important to build trust to have a committed partnership.

Trust isn’t established in a few weeks. It grows through healthy experiences, honesty and reliability. When love is on the right path, you will have a special connection with very few unanswered questions. There is no hot and cold behaviour, and you both maintain your individuality. Keeping some of your independence prevents emotional dependence on each other.

When a couple slows things down, there is a clearer understanding of what is transpiring between them.

Openly communicate and don’t be afraid to have some of the tougher conversations.

• Discuss what is important to you both. Are you eventually looking to get married and have a family? You need to know if you have the same relationship goals. There is no point in continuing in a partnership if you’re not looking for the same things.
• Don’t be so available that you alter your plans to be with them. 
• If this partnership is meant to be, there will be a reciprocated connection without a lot of questions. Your communication skills are in a healthy place.
• Your partner should be a big part of your life, but you should still maintain your individuality. 
• Do not live for someone else or let them direct your emotions.

Be smart and take baby steps when dating and starting a new relationship. The strongest partnerships aren’t rushed. They are nurtured with patience, trust and love, giving them room to grow naturally into a genuine connection that lasts.

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