Dealing with a negative partner can take a big toll on your patience and your self-esteem.

Living in this pessimistic environment isn’t pleasant. It can be difficult not to react defensively when dealing with a repetitively negative attitude. It affects anyone who crosses their path and can cause toxic living conditions when this behaviour is prolonged. It can also feel personal and disrespectful when your partner talks in a negative tone. Especially if they’re directing this negativity towards your relationship.

We will all have some tough days when our lives become problematic. It is important to share your feelings with a diplomatic approach. Venting to your partner is acceptable once in a while as long as it is not in an accusatory manner. You both want to be heard and trust that you have each other’s backs. Sharing things as a team can be very helpful. When you both work on the issue together as a couple, it is easier to find a solution.

As long as this respect is reciprocated, a partnership can manage quite nicely when life’s trials and tribulations come into play. Being supportive of one another is imperative for a relationship to succeed.

The importance of having boundaries in your relationship.

You also have to be aware when their negativity is taking your relationship to an unhealthy place. It should never be at your expense, and leave you feeling deflated and undervalued in your partnership.

You also need support when living in this troublesome environment. There are two of you in this relationship, and it’s not all about their needs 24/7. There has to be a healthy balance, which also includes self-care, in your relationship. You must have personal boundaries in place, especially if they are directing their negativity towards you.

If your partner is becoming repetitively pessimistic, try to diffuse their reaction by reacting with a positive response. Be aware that if you become angry or respond negatively, this will only heighten your partner’s pessimism. This doesn’t mean that you walk on eggshells around them, You must always respect yourself first. Help them to the best of your ability but don’t take a back seat to your own happiness. They need to be there for you too!

There are some effective techniques for managing a negative partner.

1. Understanding where this attitude is derived from is the priority. There is a need for them to be clear about what they are presently feeling. Is this due to something going on in your relationship? Has something shifted between you as a couple? If the answer is yes, then you need to get to the bottom of what has changed in your relationship. Sit down and have an honest discussion. You will both have to contribute and be open to finding a solution for it to work.
2. Ask your partner how you can help. What can you do to make things easier for them? What would make them truly happy?
3. Use your love to massage the best out of your partner. They need your positive reinforcement. Most people don’t want to stay in a negative behavioural pattern. Unfortunately, this type of doom and gloom thinking can be a hard mindset to get out of. Some people get stuck in a defeatist attitude and fall into a feeling of hopelessness.
4. Is this a new behaviour from your partner? If you are transparent with each other early on, this can often be repaired quickly. Being there for one another and noticing changes in your partner’s moods is important. They want reassurance that they can share their thoughts without being judged. You both must get the support you need when you are dealing with difficult stages in your partnership. We don’t always evolve together as the years progress in our relationships. If you focus on being there for one another, it will really help to keep things in a harmonious place.
5. Has your partner always been in this negative mindset? If this is the case, and their communication is becoming more pessimistic, they should seek therapy. This is a deep-rooted problem, and they will need professional advice to help them through it. You are not equipped with the tools to deal with their ongoing despondency.
6. If this has affected your well-being and self-worth, you also need to attend counselling with or without your partner.

Do not forget about yourself.

Your partner has to want to rectify this situation. Things will not change if they don’t understand; they have a negative outlook. If they are not willing to do the work, you need to start considering your own needs. If they continue to have a pessimistic viewpoint, it is time to prioritize your future happiness. What are you going to do moving forward? You need to have a plan.

You can be there for your partner, but you can’t force them to change. If they don’t think they have a problem, then it becomes your problem. This isn’t fair to you, and it certainly isn’t a conducive partnership. A partnership only works when there is team effort. Don’t lose sight of what is important to you as well.

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