Many men and women do not realize that they repeat, or allow, similar actions and unhealthy behaviour in their partnerships. The same results will continue until you take ownership of your part in these unfulfilling relationship decisions.

Some people are addicted to drama. When things are going smoothly it makes them feel uncomfortable or bored. They learn to enjoy the ups and downs of a problematic relationship. One of the reasons for this is it becomes a familiar excitement that they gain an attachment to. It is a forbidden fruit that keeps luring them back for more!

How can you prevent a relationship from ending in the same heartbreaking way?

1. The first thing to comprehend is that what you are allowing, is not working in your partnerships.
2. The next thing is to understand the root of this issue. What is making you choose the same type of people that don’t work out for you?
3. What is the common theme of each relationship? Is it a financial or sexual attraction that keeps you going back?
4. Are you only attracted to a certain type and making that your priority? If all your exes are starting to look and act alike this is a big clue!
5. Are you moving on from one relationship to the next too quickly?

Quite often many people go from one relationship to the next without taking any time in between. They don’t take any accountability for what transpired to end the last relationship.

Transforming from choosing dysfunctional relationship habits. You must take time to self-reflect after a breakup!

If you want to move forward and choose healthier connections, you must become self-aware. It is important to take responsibility for who you’re letting into your life. This behaviour needs to be recognized, to prevent you from continuing on the same broken path. It is one thing to be able to communicate with your partner, but you also need to communicate with yourself. Understanding who you are as your authentic self is crucial.

To break a repetitive cycle there has to be change! You also must acknowledge that allowing repetitive drama in your relationship is a choice. You are the one in charge of your life, therefore you need to choose a better outcome for yourself. This will only occur when you become emotionally available. You must also establish boundaries to receive the love you deserve.

Some men and women become addicted to the push-pull routine in a drama-filled toxic relationship.

This happens a lot more than you think. When things go smoothly, some people get bored and look for a more complicated scenario. They don’t want predictable situations. They want unpredictable excitement and become addicted to the drama. Unfortunately, this can cause people to get stuck in an undesirable arrangement over and over again.

You will find that you are never the top priority with partners like this. Once the euphoric high slows down, things will end once again. It is like a repetitive short-term cycle that has you initially hooked until reality checks in once again.

Learn how to identify red flags early on in a new partnership.

What are the initial similarities that attract you to someone?

• Do they play hard to get or are they challenging in other ways?
• Is all the relationship compromising done by you?
• Do they love-bomb you with gifts and compliments?
• Is sex a top priority for them? Do you jump into bed with them quickly?
• Are they always making excuses about how busy they are so your time with them is limited?
• Do you find yourself making excuses to others about what’s really going on in your relationship? Are you embellishing the dynamics?
• Are you embarrassed when your breakups occur once again?
• Are your friends and family seeing a pattern before you do? If the answer is yes, then it is time to take accountability for what you’re allowing to continue.

Love should not be dysfunctional, abusive, or manipulative!

If any of this behaviour resonates with you, you must change course immediately. This is the time to implement counselling as soon as possible. Breaking free from toxic love is not an easy transition and receiving professional help is so important. There may be some embedded childhood dialogue that’s making you choose these unhealthy relationships. This happens because this type of destructive behaviour is familiar to you.

Acknowledging your lack of boundaries is a big step to healing. You understand that you deserve better, and that self-love needs to be prioritized. Balance and consistency are also essential in a romantic partnership. Your relationship should not be complicated to the point of questioning every move and feeling continually anxious.

Reciprocated compromise should always be an expectation in your partnership. While most couples have many similar interests, there will also be differences to contend with as well. Maintaining your individuality is crucial to personal happiness. Appreciating each other regularly will cultivate a loving and respectful bond throughout your years together.

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