Today’s topic is a popular one that I have discussed often with clients. Can Single Men and Women Be Content Without a Partner?

Many people are fed up and are beyond frustrated with the difficulties dating presents. This brings out uncomfortable emotions stemming from sadness to anger, and confusion about how to live their lives without a romantic partner. In answer to today’s question; yes, you absolutely can be content being single, and have a very fulfilling life!

Being in a partnership does not define you. Of course, having love in your life is very important, but it can show up in many other forms such as close friends, your family, and your pets. Some people have a platonic companionship, or an intimate friends-with-benefits scenario that they enjoy in reciprocated acceptance.

Not everyone has to have an exclusive, committed relationship.

When you have an interesting single life that keeps you busy and fulfilled, you can be very happy in that existence. I know many single women who have travel partners and plan annual adventures together. Each year they go somewhere new, and they always have that to look forward to on the calendar.

If you don’t have a travel buddy, there are single vacation packages available in many cities around the world. There are singles cruises, club meds, and single tour groups as well. Being single has so many more options than ever before. Continuing to evolve and checking off goals on your bucket list, will keep you too engaged in life, to miss being in a committed relationship.

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Being single and independent isn’t for everyone, but it sure can be an exciting environment when you surround yourself with other like-minded people who are also single and adventurous. If you look back to your past relationships, there is a reason they didn’t work out. You can end up in partnership with someone who isn’t a good fit for you, which can leave you feeling lonely and stuck. It is always a better choice to be happy and single than unhappy and living with a partner.

If you are not happy being single, it is important to know who YOU are first, before entering into a partnership.

Taking time away from dating or being in an unsatisfying relationship, will give you more clarity as to what it is you are looking for in a potential partner. This is often the time when many men and women end up meeting their special person! If you’re not putting out negative energy, you are more available and welcoming to receiving love in your life. You may not be aware that you have been sending out the wrong vibrations in the past, and this is what prevented you from meeting a compatible partner.

A few of my clients did not realize that they were feeling bitter and rejected from their dating experiences that continued not to work out for them. This shows up very quickly when you are meeting someone new. Even if you are not vocalizing your frustrations, your body language and self-esteem issues can speak volumes.

The important thing to remember is that you are a whole person whether you are single, or in a relationship.

Be careful not to become jaded and make personal judgments that hinder you from moving forward to finding the love you desire. We can be our own worst enemy sometimes. Change up your thought process and start to repeat positive mantras throughout the day. “I’m content and proud of who I have become! I am ready and available to meet my life partner, who is an extension of who I already am.”

The most important part of this practice is that you have to believe you are truly open and deserving to have a committed partnership. Even thinking about the lack of love in your life, will continue to bring you more of the same negative energy.

People who comprehend this and learn from their difficult dating/relationship scenarios are the ones who continue to believe they are worthy of having a healthy relationship when the time is right. That is the magical key! Believing in yourself and opening your heart to let love in!

OK, so I have decided that for the time being, I will embrace being single. How do I learn to be content living a life single?

1. When you are single, you can make plans whenever you want, and you don’t have to answer to anyone. The trick is to say yes to as many opportunities that come your way.
2. The more adventure and fun you have in your life, the happier you are as your authentic self. This attracts more people toward you because your energy is contagious.
3. Stop worrying that people are judging you because you are NOT in a relationship. Some couples are not in a happy partnership and are envious that you are free to live your life as, you please. Try not to give any time to people who make comments about your single status. I can promise you, those people are not happy in their own lives.
4. Spend time with your couple-friends. You are not the fifth wheel, and you bring just as much to the table as a single person, as someone who is in a relationship.
5. You may not be completely okay with being single at present, but having a great attitude, and showing happy confidence, is the key to being content as a single person. Having a personable presence is very attractive!
6. Surround yourself with positive people who are also happy being single. If there are any negative discussions, remove yourself from the environment.
7. Alter your environment regularly, so there is always change happening in your life. Get out of the house often.

You’re in charge of who you let into your life, and you’re also in charge of what’s holding you back from getting what you want.

I have enjoyed spending time as a single woman and also enjoyed time in committed partnerships. I made numerous mistakes, but I paid close attention not to repeat unhealthy patterns. Furthermore, I took ownership of the choices I made because ultimately I am in charge of who I allow to come into my world. Life lessons are very valuable, and their messages should not be ignored.

Some men and women feel restricted being in a relationship and are happier being single. Others feel judged because they aren’t in a partnership, which causes them to feel pressured even more. It is nobody’s business how you choose to live your life, but sometimes it is better not to give out too much information. You are entitled to your privacy, so choose wisely who you share it with.

The bottom line is, don’t sell yourself short by listening to other people, over your own gut instincts, You know what is best for you and part of moving on healthily is forgiving yourself for situations that didn’t work out in the past. We all make mistakes in our lives, but being grateful for those experiences and appreciating them, will always help you to continue your journey on a better path.

Go for what you want in your life and put energy into doing what makes you truly happy.

If you’re more content being independent and single, that’s where you should be. If you enjoy being in a partnership, take your time meeting your special person, so there is no dependency and there are no questions. You will have a much clearer picture of who someone truly is when you slow down the process and really get to know them. Mistakes are made when you jump in head-first without caution. Sexual chemistry will get you every time!

It is important to also spend time with friends and do a few things on your own as well. You should understand how to be comfortable in your own skin without the dependency of having to always be surrounded by other people.

Regardless of which status you find yourself in at the present time, put your energy into accepting where you are with optimism. Being single and being in a relationship both have their strong points, so enjoy each phase of your life as it transpires. If you continue to appreciate the path you are currently on, you will always be rewarded with happiness. Having a positive mindset is the key to achieving what you desire in your life.

Thank you, Sybersue xo <3

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