Why being jaded isn’t protecting you; it’s blocking you. When past hurts harden the heart. Learning to trust love again.

Both sexes go through many different emotions when they’re dating or coming out of a relationship. When you have dealt with being ghosted, ongoing rejection, and cycles of disappointment, it can deeply affect your self-esteem. These negative experiences can be very impactful. You also end up carrying emotional baggage with you to each new situation that you allow into your life.

Taking time out from dating or being in any relationship at this time is very important. You must first deprogram your mind from the hurt, or it will sabotage your happiness moving ahead. When you become jaded, it stems from a buildup of resentment and bitterness.

Feeling jaded or angry often happens when you don’t feel you’ve had proper closure from a romantic scenario.

Whether you were blindsided by the breakup or you’re hurt from the rejection, each experience will keep the anger embedded. You need to properly deal with the underlying problem to remove the lingering pain you are feeling.

This is the time to look inward and be accountable for your part in what transpired. It takes two people to make or break a relationship. You only have yourself to rely on in how you move forward in your life. Taking some ownership is crucial to healing heartbreak and rejection.

We don’t always get the closure that we are looking for in a romantic connection. It is easier for your Ex to walk away and to avoid being transparent with the uncomfortable truth. They don’t want to take responsibility for how their actions and honesty impact your healing process.

This is something to be aware of if you’re repeating negative patterns in your dating or relationship lifestyle. It’s very easy to want to point the finger at others when things aren’t working out for you. But sometimes you have to look in the mirror and take some accountability for what you are allowing.

How do you build hope and belief in having a healthy relationship?

1. You have to detox your negative mindset. Change your thoughts every time something pops into your mind about past dates or relationships. Take up journaling and write down your feelings each time this happens. Read them over and over until you understand how they’re not serving you anymore. Eventually, you will start to write more positively. It is much easier to grasp the situation when you see it written down.
2. Stop yourself every time you talk about the opposite sex in a distasteful way. It is important to understand that not all women are the same, and not all men are the same either. Gender stereotyping is never a good thing, and it just causes more problems to come your way. Judgmental attitudes are a very negative behaviour and will repel people from coming toward you.
3. Take at least 6 months to 1 year away from dating. You need to clear out these restricting cobwebs from your mind. Gaining clarity is crucial to changing what isn’t healthily serving you. When you decide to date again, choose a different type than you have before. Break the cycle! It’s not working for you, so don’t repeat past behaviour. You are the one in charge of who you bring into your life. Understanding this is half the battle to altering any negativity you have had to deal with.
4. Your past isn’t your future. This means you have to stop rewriting all beliefs that have become hurtful patterns. They are causing you to consistently view love and relationships in a pessimistic light.
5. Understand that when you are feeling jaded or angry, it is just a protective shield. You have to let your guard down to let love in. Having healthy boundaries will keep your walls from continuing to build.

It is crucial to learn from the lessons of your past dating and relationship experiences.

There is always a big reason why a past relationship didn’t work out, and it’s usually for your betterment. Taking the time to dissect what transpired will help you move on in a better direction.

When you hold on to painful or heartbreaking scenarios, it controls your happiness and keeps you in defensive mode. Instead of saying, “I’m never dating again,” say, “Okay, that didn’t work out very well. I’m going to choose differently next time.” It’s not always someone else’s fault that something didn’t go well.

As you become more self-aware, you may decide you’re not interested in dating or having a relationship for a while. Taking time to grow and learn how to be comfortable with who you are is a valuable experience. No matter what you decide, implementing the changes mentioned in this post will help you have a more positive outlook.

The key to understanding the life lessons is feeling good about who you are. With each new path you take, embrace your identity with self-love.

A relationship doesn’t define you, and it certainly shouldn’t control your self-worth. Rejection can be very painful, but it’s actually a stepping stone to a better place. Never stop learning how to be a better version of yourself.

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