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This issue is prevalent in many relationships today. Some couples who have been together for many years are now at the stage where they’re just going through the motions in their partnership. Their daily life becomes all about the kids, their jobs, errands and household routine. There is little communication, and the romantic spark has long since faded. Neither person is really addressing the big change that is happening between them,

This is the reason I call this a silent breakup. Things slowly start to unravel within your relationship without having a reciprocated conversation about what is transpiring.

When you’re emotionally disconnected as a couple, it can take a big toll on your self-esteem. Living in this environment is very lonely. This is one of the reasons I often emphasize the importance of communication in a partnership. Allowing things to reach this level is very difficult to recover from. It is a painful disconnect that worsens over time.

When you stop talking to each other and sharing romantic moments, the intimacy automatically slows down or stops completely in some cases.

What are some of the signs that your relationship has changed to this degree?

1. You’re living together, but you’re basically roommates. Some couples describe it as living together as strangers due to the lack of communication
2. Any conversations you have are surface-level.
3. You avoid spending time together or being home at the same time.
4. Socializing together is limited, and you seldom hang out with other couples.
5. You go to bed at different times or sleep in separate rooms.

How did you get here?

This situation didn’t happen overnight. This is why it is crucial to always pay close attention to what is happening in your partnership. Some people avoid discussing any controversial issues and just hope they will eventually go away. We all know how that works out! Once again, I stress the importance of communication. This is your number one resource and most important tool to always stay connected as a couple.

Another reason relationships can fall apart is due to busy lives and prioritizing everything else above your partner. This can eventually cause resentment that keeps building over the years. When you stop putting each other first in your relationship, the outcome is emotional neglect. The first sign of this is feeling lonely within your relationship. It is difficult to fix things when either of you has already checked out of your partnership.

So saying that, can a couple come back and rekindle their love?

For this to work, you both have to be on the same page and want to repair the damage. That means owning the part you played in allowing this disconnected behaviour between you. There needs to be reciprocated transparency. You will both have to show vulnerability and honesty to have some of these tough conversations. Pride can often get in the way in these circumstances.

Please don’t let your ego keep you from saving your relationship.

The most important question moving forward is: Do you still love each other? If the answer is yes, you will have a greater chance of salvaging your relationship. It will be imperative to spend quality time together, as you will have to get to know each other again. This means attending counselling together as a couple and planning regular date nights. You both have to want your relationship to succeed and be willing to contribute equally.

If your efforts to reconnect are continually met with blame or hostility, you may be in the final stage of your partnership. It won’t work if your desires are one-sided. As painful as this might be for you, at least you can walk away knowing that you did everything you could to salvage your relationship. Sadly, sometimes we just grow apart and don’t evolve together as a couple.

In conclusion:

1. Communicate often with your partner, even when it’s an uncomfortable situation that needs addressing.
2. Silence is not golden in a relationship. It is a sign that things are changing. Just because you don’t argue or fight about something, doesn’t mean there is harmony between you.
3. Take time each day to sit down and talk to your partner. Make it a priority to chat about your day and what the week holds ahead. Staying connected will keep you from becoming emotionally detached.
4. Keep the romance alive by planning regular date nights. If you find it difficult to plan intimate time with your partner, you may have to mark something down on the calendar. As clinical as that may sound, sometimes you have to do that to prioritize and nurture your love.
5. Hug and kiss each other every day.

Love doesn’t always die from one big problem. It dies from 100 little silences.

If you’re feeling distant in your relationship, don’t ignore it. Speak up, reach out and take action. Even if the truth is painful, it’s far better than drifting into an unemotional and detached partnership.

You deserve a love that feels vibrant and alive! Make laughter and having fun a priority. This will automatically help keep the intimacy, communication and romance alive between you as a couple. Don’t lose sight of why you fell in love with each other. It’s worth the time and energy spent to save your partnership.

Thank you, Sybersue xo ❤

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