Dear Sybersue,

I am very frustrated and pretty much done trying to date anymore. I am a reasonably attractive 30-year-old male and have no trouble meeting women for the most part. The main issue is that they all seem to have a sense of entitlement attitude. Their expectations are through the roof. Aren’t there any down-to-earth women out there who just want a normal guy?

I frequent many different venues, but all the women seem to be the same. I do have a big attraction to beautiful ladies who are under 25, do you think that could be part of the problem?

Thank you, Adam

Hi Adam,

Unfortunately, there are many dating challenges today. I am happy that you understand that there is a pattern when it comes to the women you are attracted to. You definitely have a type! Did you take the time to observe any of these women before you asked them out? Or, were you strictly drawn to them on a physical level first and foremost?

Many people make the mistake of prioritizing looks over everything else, and this becomes a problem. This type of relationship only has temporary sexual chemistry to keep it together. There needs to be a lot more substance if you are looking for a committed partnership.

You like beautiful women under 25, but you stereotype these women as having a sense of entitlement. Despite this, you continue to be attracted to this type. Sorry to be frank, but have you ever considered yourself to have high expectations as well? You only date women with a certain quality. This behaviour contradicts what you tell me you are looking for. Do you think your expectations about their physical appearance is the issue here?

Improving your dating skills comes from owning your mistakes.

It is time to change up your dating environment and stop dating the clientele that frequents these establishments. You need to get out of this repetitious cycle you have put yourself into. I agree that there has to be chemistry with someone you’re committing to. But, it should not be the only thing that you are looking for.

Many men become captivated by women’s looks at first. As a result, they miss some red flags that are right in front of them. Self-entitled women & men are very transparent for the most part. Unfortunately, this is regularly ignored in the beginning when the sexual chemistry is overpowering!

There are many attractive women who are down to earth. They may not seem flashy enough to catch your attention. This is due to the women you have been attracted to over the years. Some women are independent today and have high-profile careers. They can often be perceived as difficult to date because of their strength, and some men find this confidence intimidating.

It is important for you to be confident and have self-worth.

This will alleviate any insecurities or quick judgments you have when dating. You also should know what you’re looking for in a partner. Be honest with yourself, are you sure you are ready to meet a potential partner? You may not be, and that is why you choose emotionally unavailable women.

You seem to date organically for the most part, but maybe online dating could work for you. Especially since you are going to change up going to your past dating establishments. Take your time experimenting with this new procedure.

Please don’t become impatient if you don’t meet too many women you’re attracted to right away. Some of my clients want to give up after a month. They feel discouraged when they don’t meet someone online quickly. It shouldn’t be an easy process. It takes time to meet a special person that you are going to spend the rest of your life with.

You said you’re ready to give up on dating. What is the main reason for that?

You are in charge of who you ask out, so why don’t you start there first? Change what isn’t working. Don’t date the same type of women you have been dating for years. If the main problem is financial expectations from women, then it would be wise to date someone who is more self-sufficient.

Independent women do not lean on their men to take care of them or support them. Women have come a long way, and that is a good thing. I hate to use a cliché, but beauty is only skin deep. If she doesn’t have some great qualities on the inside, her attitude will soon make her looks fade on the outside too.

Both sexes can be high-maintenance, and having an unrealistic checklist will keep everyone single for a lot longer. No one can live up to those expectations, and no one wants to.

Choose better dating scenarios.

• Take time to read a woman’s profile if you decide to try online dating sites.
• Analyze her online photos. They can be a dead giveaway.
• Go for a different look than you usually go for. If you want to meet a down-to-earth woman, you need to date someone who lives a more casual lifestyle.
• Do not sleep with women right away. This will get you into more trouble than anything else! Some women feel emotionally connected and more territorial after they have sex with someone.

Many men and women are not taking the time to get to know someone. They are making quick judgments. It’s always great to take time away from dating, especially if there are a lot of repetitive scenarios happening. Transform your dating approach and shift your mindset. Change up the traits you’re looking for in a partner.

Stay away from expensive establishments and try to diversify the women you date. Expand your dating options by going outside dating your usual type. Everyone is looking for perfection but none of us are perfect.

Dating is a personal journey for each one of us. At times, we have to get out of our own way to meet our potential partners. If every dating scenario is ending the same way, you need to change the direction in which it’s going. A fresh approach to new beginnings is always a good start. Give the nice girls a chance too, Adam, you will be surprised how attractive they are!

Thank you, Sybersue xo ❤

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